Couple’s twins joy after four-year heartbreak of failed IVF and ectopic pregnancy – Birmingham Live
A couple have described the “unbelievable joy” of realising their baby dreams after four years of fertility heartache.
Craig and Kat McAllister welcomed twin daughters Mikaela and Lillie after two failed attempts of IVF and a devastating ectopic pregnancy.
Looking at their bubbly little girls, the couple, from Worcester, said: “We still have to pinch ourselves that it has really happened after all the heartache. It feels surreal and unbelievable but was a magical moment to bring them home.”
“IVF is so stressful and can be a lonely experience,” said Craig. “People keep asking ‘When are you going to have kids’ or ‘Why don’t you just get on with it’ but they didn’t know what we were going through. We had a lot of heartbreak before we got to this point.”
Nursery nurse Kat, 28, and car detailer Craig, 30, fell in love as teenagers and had dreams of starting a family. But Kat, who was Craig’s best friend’s sister, discovered she had polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS), meaning it would be more difficult to conceive.
Unable to get IVF on the NHS because Kat’s BMI was one point over the qualifying threshold for treatment, they used their savings to go private.
But their first attempt at IVF ended in failure and a second try resulted in Kat suffering from ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome (OHSS).
When they were ready to try again, Kat fell pregnant but it ended with the grief of an ectopic pregnancy.
The couple rallied and tried one last time, having two embryos transferred, which resulted in the surprise of twins Mikaela and Lillie, who were born on April 7, 2019 weighing just 4bs 12oz and 5lb 12oz.
“We were absolutely devastated after the ectopic pregnancy,” added Craig. “One minute so hopeful and the next so desolate. We were so heartbroken, we felt we had to try one more time.
“When Kat got pregnant again, we had an early scan and couldn’t believe it when they said we were expecting twins.
“We were in complete disbelief that finally, after such a difficult and traumatic journey, we could now look forward.
“Our beautiful daughters Mikaela and Lillie are like chalk and cheese and non-identical twins. They were so small when they were born and I look at them and think how has science managed to create these two beautiful people.
“It was surreal to bring them home and a truly magical moment. We want to give other people hope that it is possible. IVF is stressful on the mind and the body and you can feel like you are all on your own.
“All you want to do is have kids. People don’t talk about what it is like enough and we should be more open and talk about it.”
Craig is running the London Marathon on October 2 in aid of charity Fertility Network, which supports those facing fertility struggles and is the UK’s leading patient fertility charity.
Fertility Network chief executive Gwenda Burns said: “One in six couples experience the heartbreak of infertility. That’s someone on every street in the UK but far too many people struggle alone without help.
“Fertility Network is here to provide advice and support for every individual facing fertility problems, whatever stage of their fertility journey.
“We rely on donations to continue our work, please do donate to Craig’s fundraiser and help us continue our work.”
Fertility Network UK provides a free and impartial Support Line 0121 323 5025 10am to 4pm and an Information Line 01424 732 361 open every day 9am to 5pm.
Craig has a donation page in aid of Fertility Network UK on the Virgin Money Giving website under Craig McAllister – 2021 Virgin Money London Marathon
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